Recently, at the encouragement of my friend Cara, I decided to join Match.com. I have been single for a little over two years now. In that time, I have done a lot of “adulting”. I purchased a car, started paying car insurance, checked my credit history, considered buying a house, and ultimately decided to rent a place instead. So, now that my ducks are less crooked, it seemed like it would be a good idea this Internet dating thing.
But let me tell you ladies, it is extremely difficult! Here are some things I’ve noticed and hopefully helpful tips about online dating adventures. First, lets talk about how sifting through profiles makes one feel like a horrible human being 90% of the time. I’ve always been a visual person. I’ll admit that I’m often more concerned about physical attraction than compatibility. So, imagine how I feel when I have to reject some of these men? I’m sure they are nice, but ultimately, if I don’t feel that spark then I move on to the next profile.
My tip, visit these sites for no more than five to ten minutes in a given setting. The longer you’re on the website, the more pessimistic you can become. second, um ladies are you typically one to initiate conversations with men? yeah, me neither. But I find that I’m more prone to do so on Match. And while that may seem cool, yeah, for destroying gender stereotypes Emily!, it is also incredibly nerve wracking. Will he respond? It’s been 24 hours. How long do I wait to respond back? How do I phrase this? I want to sound flirty but not too flirty. Honestly, I can appreciate what guys must go through a bit more. My tip, talk it out with your friends in relationships before you respond…they did something right, perhaps you can learn a thing or two young dating grasshopper.
Third, the actual dates are so awkward. Eventually, after the initial five minutes of playing awkward turtle, they go well, but those first three to five minutes of deciding how to open the conversation are just tough. Oh, and it’s especially more difficult if the guy that you’re meeting is much more tall, dark, and handsome than you could see on his profile picture 😉 and the end of the date is always just as awkward. This is especially true if you’re a lady that takes things slow. My tip be prepared for an awkward hug or high five. In the best cases, hope for a good night peck on the cheek…this seems most respectable and the least awkward of all options.
That’s all I have so far, but tune in next week. I’m supposed to be going on date number two with tall, dark, and handsome? Did I mention he was Italian? Have a great week in dating land ladies 🙂